Summer is fast approaching and it’s time for the two most obnoxious words in human history to flash across billboards on every corner. Bikini Body.
The anxiety drives people nuts. It sends them to the gym for their 3 hour lifting sessions. It brings people to do crazy things like Google “juice cleanses that help you lose 20 pounds in two days”. It makes bridesmaids to-be order their dress a size smaller so they have the motivation to the 10 pounds they gained in Valentines Day chocolate hearts by the Fourth of July, no matter the cost.
I’m here to tell you to CALM THE HELL DOWN.
Let’s stop thinking about our “Bikini Body” and start thinking about our “Best Body”.
Let me tell you a story:
A couple summers ago I bought a bikini after a parting with this adorable one piece I got in London. I was in love with my high waisted bottoms and the push up padding in the cups. I spent my summer going on fabulous dates where the alcohol flowed in rivers right to the taco truck outside of my apartment. I was performing in a show where I wore a sparkly green crop top. I ate a bagel with chocolate chip cream cheese before the show, and Raisenets after as my power snack.
And I was so happy. Incredibly happy. The kind of happy where I would get out of the subway, the sun on my face, take a deep breath and think “Wow. Life could not be any better than this”.
After my show closed I spent the rest of the summer traveling Italy, bikini at the ready between the mountains of eggplant parm and gelato.
Look at this girl and tell me she doesn’t have a bikini body.
Tell me that at 20 pounds over weight, I should have said no to pizza because my body was not worthy of a two piece swim suit.
Flash forward a couple years later. 30 pounds down and wearing a bikini that I found in the clearance section at Macy’s because it was September and nothing else fit me.
I hadn’t had a slice of cake in 6 months. I hadn’t gone out drinking since New Years Eve. I no longer ate Italian food…just a lot of egg whites and vegetables that I’d cook at home instead of going out to eat with friends and family.
I got rid of my acid reflux. But I had IBS. I was not longer over weight, but I was always cold and tired.
Is that what you imagine when you think about a “bikini body”? Because that’s the reality for a lot of people.
Eventually I discovered a new way of life that worked for me. Somewhere between IBS and 20 pounds overweight.
The beautiful truth is that our bodies are perfect when we are treating them right. And that does not involve manic exercising, starving ourselves, or avoiding all forms of social enjoyment.
We just survived the harsh winter and slowly but surely, before the summer sun gets too hot, our bodies will know to shed the extra cushion it created to keep us warm. We just need to trust it.
Let’s all agree that life isn’t about a “Bikini Body” it’s about our “Best Body”.
Let’s treat our body with care and provide what it needs to thrive this summer. Let’s make it glow with nourishing food and engagement. Let’s listen to it and tune our inner compass so that we can have our Best Body every season of every year. And not because a magazine or a man on the subway told you to, but because you deserve the best of everything.
Your body is ready. Time to shine.